1. Use the Bathroom—But Only If You Actually Have to Pee
Heading to the toilet after sex will help you avoid a urinary tract infection, because it rinses away E. coli bacteria that may have moved toward your urethra during sex. But peeing ASAP as protection is largely a myth, says Lauren Streicher, MD, a clinical associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine and the author of Sex Rx—Hormones,
Health, and Your Best Sex Ever, who notes that no
large studies have shown it to have protective benefits. So if you don’t need to pee right after intercourse, don’t rush to the bathroom —waiting until you actually have to go, whether it’s 20 minutes or an hour later, won’t up your risk of a UTI, says Streicher. Instead, stay in bed and follow the next tip.
2. Recap What Just Happened, in Your Head…Then Out Loud
Hit your mental-rewind button and play the events back in your head, from start to finish. If it was good sex, think about exactly made it so good, then tell your partner which touches and moves you loved while they’re still fresh in your mind. “Now’s the best time to talk about it, since it can feel awkward to bring it up out of the blue later,” says Kristen Carpenter, PhD, an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry, psychology, and obstetrics and gynecology, and the director of women’s behavioral health at the Ohio State Women’s Sexual Health Clinic.
(If it wasn’t you or your partner’s greatest performance, however, best to revisit what went wrong at a later time, she advises.) And one more thing that can help improve your relationship (in just 90 days, as one study found) is to maintain some intimacy in the post-sex period. An Archives of Sexual Health study reports that showing affection toward each other after sex (from cuddling and touching to romantic chitchat) was linked to more satisfying sexual relationships—and it wasn’t just that more sexually satisfied couples were more likely to partake. The researchers found that when couples started to engage in more of this loving behavior after sex over the course of the study, they had higher relationship and sexual satisfaction three months later
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