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Human nature is all about relationships. Finding them, keeping them together and keeping each other happy are the things that keep us well. Stress and misery can destroy our minds as well as our bodies. A ruined relationship can ruin your outlook on life itself. Here are a few pitfalls and some suggestions for avoiding them.

1. SEX DOES NOT SATISFY THE SEXUAL APPETITE ! :
Sex is heaven’s original idea but with a double-edged effect. When observed within the confines of marriage, it is a powerful uniting force but when observed in the breach by the married or unmarried, it creates the grounds for all kinds of evil, wickedness to thrive leading to “stories that touch.”

After pastoring for 23years plus, I am no stranger to “stories that touch.” What many fail to realize is that THE SEXUAL APPETITE, JUST LIKE ANY OTHER APPETITE CAN NEVER BE PERMANENTLY SATISFIED BY SEXUAL ACTS.

The sexual appetite is like other human appetites for example – eating. Although you ate yesterday, you will still eat today and tomorrow and next week and next month & next year. The appetite for food can never be permanently satisfied by eating.

Herein lies an important lesson; THE UNREGULATED EXERCISE OF ANY HUMAN APPETITE ALWAYS BRINGS DEVASTATION – whether it’s the sexual appetite or the feeding appetite. It’s no surprise that healthy eating/living is now a multi-billion dollar global industry. If you eat just about anything your body craves, you will dig your grave with your spoon. If you “sleep” with anything that moves your flesh, you will destroy your life & happiness.

Child of God, you can enjoy the beautiful effect that God intended from sex and avoid the terrible devastation and wrecked lives occasioned by wanton sex.


SO HOW DO YOU HANDLE THIS BEAUTIFUL SEXUAL APPETITE GOD HAS GIVEN?

SELF-CONTROL!!!


All appetites are only regulated by self-control, not “one more time” or “one more indulgence.” Self-Control is important both for the married and unmarried alike. Many marriages have been wrecked on the altar of lack of self-control. Dearly beloved of God, God designed a wonderful relationship life for you. Don’t wreck it on the altar of lack of sexual control.

2. LADIES; DON’T SELL YOUR TREASURE CHEAPLY ON CREDIT :
One of the most debasing things a lady can do to herself in a relationship is to live with a man to whom she is not yet married. It’s clear from contemporary trends that the more sexually permissive the society has become, the higher the rates of marital failure & divorce has become.

The western world from where many take their cues of sexual permissiveness from is a hotbed of marital failure. There are various things the developing world can learn from the West, that’s however is not true for marriage. God made you valuable as a lady, don’t give your precious commodities to a man who is yet to pay the price. That is selling yourself cheap and on credit. You are of great value – both man and woman. Allow yourself to be unwrapped specially not cheaply & not on credit.

3. THE ROLE OF “SLAYING” IN CHOOSING A SPOUSE! :
A person – whether male or female – is a composite BEING made of 2 parts – the inner man (the real person) & the outer man (the persons earthly house). Therefore, in marriage you are getting joined both to the inner and outer person of your spouse.

Thus, you need to evaluate both the inner and outer man qualities of that individual before you commit to them for a lifetime. Note that you may get attracted to the outer “slaying” person but you will live with inner person.

Marriages rarely fail because of outer person issues but because of inner person issues. So the inner person which is the real person has a more primary role in determining the success of a marriage while the outer person has a secondary role. So when choosing who to marry be sure you can live with the inner person inside that “slaying” outer person else the marriage is dead on arrival.

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