TOPIC: UNDERSTANDING GOD’S COMMAND TO HUSBANDS TO LOVE THEIR WIVES
SCRIPTURES: Colossians 3: 19. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
Beloved, I welcome you to another Moment of Daily Encounter! In continuation of what we started yesterday about God’s command to husband in family life.
We did established that God’s command according to scripture is to love the wives unconditionally.
Ephesians 5: 25. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Dear husband, Loving your wife is a command not an advice or suggestions. So you can choose to obey God’s commandments by loving your wife or not.
Our anchor scripture added another clause be not bitter against your wife:
Colossians 3: 19. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
Yes indeed there are several bitter husbands because they show love, the expected submission from their wives did not come!
Infact it is a case of betrayal of trust. Wives that are supposed to cover their husbands sold them out especially during challenging time! Many hearts have been stabbed and they are bleeding already because the wife has turned to be a knife.
Dear husband, please I shared in your feelings and your pain! However, we can not continue to bleed for ever, we must embrace the word of God that says be not bitter against your wife. We have no choice than to love.
Beloved, it is possible to love your wife and yet be bitter against her. Dear husband, if you allow the attitude of your wife to pissed you off you might not be able to obey the scripture! So look beyond her character and choose to love.
Stay off from offence and bitterness because bitterness defiles:
Hebrews 12: 15. Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
To love a wife is a serious command to husband hence we must understand how to love a wife. According to Dr. Garry Chapman, there are five love languages that helps every husband to manifest love. We treated two yesterday.
1. Words of affirmation
2. The acts of service
3. Giving and receiving of gift There are women no matter your words of affirmation and your act of service if you don’t give gifts to them, they believe you don’t love them.
This is also in accordance with scripture:
John 3: 16. For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Love gives! So it is not out of place to give gift to your wife as a prove of love. If this is your wife love language then speak it to her. Note also not every woman will be move by giving gift.
4. Quality time spent! There are women who if given all the good things of this life, as long as you don’t have time for them, you are not speaking their love language. As a matter of fact, if you spent time with them, then you are speaking their love language. So you must bring out time and listen to your wife while she express herself. Some men complain “my wife talk too much “! This are men who don’t know their purpose in that marriage. A man who knows why God place him in that marriage must make out time to listen to his wife. If you don’t have time for your wife, she goes out to the neighborhood to go and express herself to whomever cares to listen. Therefore, understand your wife love language and speak it to her by spending time with her.
5. Physical touch: there are women whose love language is physical touch, so if you give words of affirmation, it wouldn’t work, act of service, give gifts and spend time with them, yet until you give them a pat on their back, a hug, a peck, a kiss they wouldn’t feel love. This are the group that want to hold your hands while walking on the street! The unfortunate thing is that it does happened in courtship and probably the first year of marriage. But as time goes on things begin to change.
Dear Husband, the knowledge of how to speak your wife love language is worthy of study as God kept in that marriage to show love.
Remember this : Heaven is real and hell is real. Eternity lies ahead every man. Prepare to meet thy God..
– Father thank you for your word to me today.
– Lord help me to love without bitterness in the name of Jesus
– I prophesy every marriage that is currently tearing apart be heal in the name of Jesus.
– To all singles out there, may the Lord bless your family with the tonics of love in the name of Jesus.
From your brother Alex
God bless you.